|Experience by Anonymous|
Bismillah Ar Rahman Ar Raheem. Assalam Alaykum Wa rahmatullahi Wa barkatuhu. In our hearts, somewhere… somehow there is a fear. This fear is about losing someone we love. This fear haunts us sometimes in our nightmares and sometimes it gets us worried. However we all know that Death is inevitable. It will come at its appointed time and no one can stop it. Many years ago, when my cousin’s father passed away (May Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala grant him a high place in Jannah Ameen) I told her this one Hadith I read in my Sahih Al Bukhari book.
After listening to the Hadith, she smiled. Alhamdulillah.
Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi Allahu Anhu): Allah’s Messenger (Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: “Allah says, ‘I have nothing to give but Paradise as a reward to my slave, a true believer of Islamic Monotheism who, if I cause his dear friend (or relative) to die, remains patient (and hopes for Allah’s Reward).’” [8:432-O.B] Sahih Al Bukhari
Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala loves us so much. No matter how much we study or do anything, we can never even imagine how much He loves us!! He takes care of our smallest things. He grants us so many blessings without even us asking Him. He is perfect and Ever-Living. To Him we belong and to Him we will return inshaAllah. May we all return to Him in a state when He is pleased with us Ameen
Yesterday, one of our dear sisters in Islam, her father passed away. Inna lillahi Wa inna ilayhi rajioun.
All I can say to her is:
“O my dear friend. I do not know how you feel. I am far away from you and there is not much I can do. What you are going through is a lot and no one else can feel what you are going through right now. All I can do is make du’a for you. May Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala shower His mercy and love upon you. May He grant you tranquility and make it easy on you. Ameen”
We all say we understand but we really don’t. It’s hard to understand a pain when we ourselves haven’t been through the same thing. However Allah knows and He knows everything you feel. He listens to every whisper in our heart. He knows every inch of pain we feel. He sees our tears. He is there for us. The world is asleep. The birds are in their nest. The moon is shining in the same way it shone last night. The night is the same like yesterday except for you because you have lost someone you had yesterday. Only Allah knows if we live by tomorrow or not. However we should not despair. We have Allah and that is all that matters. He is our best friend. He is that friend who never leaves us. He is there with us in this world. He is there with us in our grave. Most of all, He shades us under His throne on the Day of Judgement. SubhanAllahi Wa bihamdihi SubhanAllahil Azim
When we have lost someone, our first step is to be patient so that we can be rewarded by Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala inshAllah.
We are always in need of His mercy. I would say if we wake up for Tahajjud and pray at least two Rak’at of Salah. After this make du’a to Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala. It is okay to cry but it has no benefit. If you cry in front of Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala, every tear is valuable. He will listen to you and He will grant you tranquility of the heart. You will feel so much peace inside your heart and you will know that even though you have lost your loved one. Allah will take care of that person in the grave by widening it and shedding light upon it.
Don’t cry. They are more closer to Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala. They wouldn’t want to see you cry. Smile because their journey has now ended and they love to meet Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala. Death is the beginning of a new journey which is the hereafter. Glad tidings to a believer.
I remember reading in my favorite book, Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum, how our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) comforted the martyrs during His time.
“One day, at midnight Allah’s Messenger (Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) went to Al-Baqi’ cemetery, and begged Allah to forgive the martyrs of Islam. He (Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said:
“Peace be upon you, O inhabitants of the grave! The morning that dawns upon you is more relieving than that which dawns upon the living. Afflictions are approaching like cloudy lumps of a dark night – the last of which follows the first. The last one is bearing more evil than the first.”
He comforted them saying:
“We are also coming to you.”
(Ar Raheeq Al Makhtum page 550)
Our Duas always help our loves ones. If we love them so much then we will make lots of dua for them inshAllah.
O Allah, forgive the deceased and elevate his station among those who are guided. Send him along the path of those who came before, and forgive us and him, O Lord of the worlds. Enlarge for him his grave and shed light upon him in it. (Muslim 2/634)
O Allah, forgive him and have mercy on him and give him strength and pardon him. Be generous to him and cause his entrance to be wide and wash him with water and snow and hail. Cleanse him of his transgressions and white cloth is cleansed of stains. Give him an abode better than his home, and a family better than his family and a wife better than his wife. Take him into Paradise and protect him from the punishment of the grave [and from the punishment of Hell-fire]. Muslim 2/663.
O Allah, forgive our living and our dead, those who are with us and those who are absent, our young and our old, our menfolk and our womenfolk. O Allah, whomever you give life from among us give him life in Islam, and whomever you take away from us take him away in Faith. O Allah, do not forbid us their reward and do not send us astray after them. (Ibn Majah 1/480, Ahmad 2/368)
We can say this invocation for the bereaved:
“Surely, Allah takes what is His, and what He gives is His, and to all things He has appointed a time … so have patience and be rewarded. (Al Bukhari 2/80)
It is also good to say this:
“‘A’dhamallahu ‘ajraka, Wa ‘ahsana ‘azaa’aka Wa ghafara limayyitika.
“May Allah magnify your reward, and make perfect your bereavement, and forgive your departed.” (An-Nawawi, Kitabul-‘Athkar, p. 126)
To all of us, let this be a reminder that we never know when we will die. Let’s do our best to live this life as a traveller inshaAllah.
Narrated (Mujahid): Ibn ‘Umar (Radi Allahu Anhu) said, “Allah’s Messenger (Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) took hold of my shoulder and said, ‘Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveller.’” (The subnarrator added): Ibn ‘Umar used to say, ‘If you survive till the evening, do not expect to be alive in the morning, and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening, and take from your health for your sickness, and (take) from your life for your death.” (This means, ‘Do good deeds when you are healthy and alive before you become sick and die” [8:425-O.B] Sahih Al Bukhari
“… The Appointment to you is for a Day, which you cannot put back for an hour [or a moment] nor put forward.” (Qur’an 34:30)
Let this be a reminder to me first and to you all inshaAllah. I know we are afraid of losing our loves ones. It is Allah’s Decree and we have to accept it inshaAllah. Most of all, those who have parents who are alive, please give them a call and talk to them. This is the precious time we can spend with them. We will never know when we will lose our loved ones. Let’s cherish every moment and not wait until an occasion to talk to our loved ones. It’s a great blessing to have parents Alhamdulillah. Their experience, wisdom and knowledge are so amazing mashaAllah. There is always something to learn from them and their happiness pleases Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala which makes us happy also. May Allah Subhana Wa ta’ala forgive us all and unite us all with our loved ones in Jannah inshAllah.