An experience by a sister who wishes to remain anonymous
The Messenger of Allah SalAllahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said: “Whoever of you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand, and If he is not able to do so, then with his tongue, and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart – and that is the weakest of faith.” Muslim 2/22
When I see any of my Muslim brother or sister doing something wrong, I tell them to not do it. In return, I either get insulted or the person gets very mad at me. Instead to listening to what I am saying, the person thinks he/she is right. There is nothing wrong in that. We all feel the same way. We don’t like being told what to do and what not to do. I totally understand that. However I want you to understand the consequences.
When I advise someone not to do something which is forbidden in Islam. I am trying to help them out. I am not trying to humiliate them or trying to find faults in them. I am doing this because I love them for the sake of Allah Swt. I do not expect anything in return because I expect rewards from Allah Swt. I want the best for my brothers and sisters in Islam and i want to take them to Jannah with me.
I know I am not perfect myself. If we all help one another out like this with sincere intention. InshaAllah everyone will benefit from it.
Here are some important things that I think we should do:
(note: I am not a scholar)
A. Start with the sincere intention to help someone for Allah’s sake only.
B. Do it in privacy. Do not do it openly so that way you don’t hurt the feelings of your brother.
C. Be kind, don’t be harsh “this is haram!! Astagfirullah!! You will be punished” . Don’t say such things.
D. Be with the best of manners
E. Be patient. Stay calm and listen to what they have to say.
F. Be ready to help with the situation. If the brother has a hard time leaving music. Ask him to join you in the righteous gatherings or listen to Quran in the car etc..
G. Invoke Allah Swt to help this person.
H. Advise in a way, the person would feel comfortable listening to you. Say, “I heard you listen to the music and I understand that, but do you know Allah Swt will reward you with a much greater thing than that if you avoid it?”
I mean there are so many creative ways you can think of.
May Allah Swt help us all an grant us all Jannat al Firdous ameen