|Experience by Anonymous|
“During his Caliphate, ‘Umar radi Allahu anhu set out for Ash-Shaam with Abu Ubaydah. On this journey, they came upon a deep creek, which they needed to cross. So ‘Umar took off his sandals and carried them on his shoulders. Then he took the reign of the camel and began plowing through the water. Seeing the khalifah of the Muslims in this state, Abu Ubaydah felt saddened and said, “I fear that the people of the village will think of you without honor.”
‘Umar replied, “Oh Abu Ubaydah, if only someone less knowledgeable then you made such a statement. We were of the most disgraced of people, and Allah granted us honor with this Islam. Now, whenever we seek honor in other than that which Allah honored us with, Allah shall disgrace us (once again).”’
Alhamdulillah! Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala has honored us through Islam and honor comes from none but Allah alone. If we keep this in our mind and always remember this, inshaAllah everything will become easy for us.
In college, once I wanted to get into the biomedical terminology class. Unfortunately I was too late to register for it. The registration asked me to wait till the first day and just show up in the class. This was because usually people register for classes and then they decide not to take them.
So, the first day I entered the class and it was full. I told the teacher to let me know if there was any opening. The teacher humiliated me in front of the entire class. She was very rude and it felt as if she didn’t want me to be in her class. I wasn’t sure if she did that because of my hijab or I don’t know…Only Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala knows best. I also found out that day, she had a few openings as well. So I went to the registration and asked them that I wanted to join the class. They let me register for that class. The next day I showed up to class and again the teacher humiliated me. This time even the whole class was laughing at me. I didn’t care. I told myself that “Don’t worry about it. Honor comes from Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala and at this moment I am being tested.” I became very patient Alhamdulillah. A few days passed by and the teacher began to appreciate me in front of the class. My grades were excellent Alhamdulillah. The teacher held a quiz in the class and asked us to be in two groups. Both the groups wanted me in theirs. They almost fought over me. In only a matter of few days, all this happened. Everyone began to respect me. This was one of the best classes I ever had Alhamdulillah.
A few days ago, one sister felt the same thing. She felt as if people are treating her in a rude manner because of her hijab. For some of us, I will be honest when anything bad happens, we start thinking to ourselves “Maybe they are doing this because of our hijabs”. I advised the sister not to feel that way because we do not know what their intentions are. Even if their intentions are that way, we should be happy because hijab is our honor Alhamdulillah. If people want to humiliate us, let them because honor has already been given to us by our Lord. Islam gives Muslim women a great honor and status. We need not worry about anything. Alhamdulillah she became happy.
We depend on people to give us honor and become upset about it. I know it does hurt when people humiliate us. At times, it is our own Muslim brothers and sisters humiliating us. However, honor itself is a test. One day we are honored and the next day we will be humiliated. In these circumstances, if we become patient. Then no matter how much people do their best to humiliate us, they will eventually come to respect us.
Honor is a great blessing given to us by Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala. However we must understand that our blessings can be a trial for us.
“It is through trials that the gratitude of the grateful person becomes revealed while the ingrate becomes exposed” (Book: Don’t be sad)
Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala says in the Qur’an,
“As for man, when his Lord tries him by giving him honor and gifts, then he says [puffed up]: ‘My Lord has honored me’. But when He tries him, by straightening his means of life, he says: ‘My Lord has humiliated me!’ Nay!…” (Qur’an 89:15-17)
Therefore, in all matters we should thank Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala. Alhamdulillah for everything. All Praise be to Allah Subhana Wa ta’ala, The Lord of the Worlds, The Most High, The Majestic, The Most Merciful. Allahu Akbar!!
There has been many times people have tried to humiliate me. I just smile at them and this makes them even more angry. However, when the time goes by they begin to respect us.
When I give Dawah at work, some people don’t want to hear it. After a few months go by, the same people come and ask me about Islam. I find it amazing subhanAllah.
Ibn Katheer said, “Whoever wants a place of honor in this life and the next, let him hold firmly to the obedience of Allah and his goal will be realized.” This is because to Allah belongs this life and the next, and all honor is His. Allah subhaanahu wa ta’aala says:
Say, O Allah, Owner of Sovereignty, You give sovereignty to whom You will and You take sovereignty away from whom You will. You honor whom You will and You humble whom You will. In Your hand is [all] good. Indeed, You are over all things competent (A’le-Imran 3/26).
Note to the readers: I am not a scholar. May Allah Subhana Wa Ta’ala forgive me for my mistakes Ameen.