Beautiful Forgiveness

Beautiful Forgiveness

One of my favorite Surah in the Qur’an is Surah Yusuf. It’s the most beautiful story ever! It’s the story of a Young Prophet whose journey starts from one place to another. At his young age, he was thrown into a well by his 10 older brothers. It was a very painful feeling for Yusuf ( AS). Imagine being away from home, away from a loving father and betrayed by not just one but ten brothers!

Yusuf (AS) was alone in the well but his afflictions didn’t end here. A group of people found him but decided to sell him into slavery in a far place. Very soon, Allah Swt turned his calamity into a blessing. Yusuf (AS) was sold as a slave in Egypt and was purchased by a Finance Minister of that time. He was treated more like a son than a slave. He was taught the knowledge of finance of that country. When everything was going well, he was seduced by the Minister’s wife. He got blamed although he was innocent. He went to prison for many years. At last when his innocence was cleared, he then became the finance minister of that same town. 

This time, his brothers came for some food. Then later on they found out that he was their own brother who they threw into the well. Realizing what they had done, they asked him for forgiveness. Yusuf (AS) forgave his brothers.

The story of Yusuf (AS) is a beautiful story that teaches us patience and forgiveness. Although Yusuf (AS) was in a very high position than his brothers, he never put them down. He forgave them in a very beautiful and kind way.

When someone hurts us, it doesn’t give us the right to put that person down. If you don’t wish to forgive that person, just leave that person alone. If they apologize, accept it or keep a distance. However, don’t make that person feel bad about him/her every time you see them.

Islam teaches us to be easy going. We have to understand each other and move on. The truth is we are always struggling with our manners. Now a days, the way we text or chat with someone, we hardly think too much and just write what we feel at the moment. However the message, once sent is sent. There is nothing we can do about it. We have to do our best to not hurt others. It’s difficult but if we try our best, we can achieve this. It’s not right to text anything to someone without giving it a read at least once. We may mean something else but the person reading it would feel something different. 

Be forgiving, be humble, be honest and move on in life. This is how you can live and be happy. The more grudges you keep, the more it will prolong. Keep your heart away from malice towards anyone. 

There is a hadith which has become one of my favorite ever since I have heard about it in a khutbah (Friday sermon). It helps me forgive others and not to have any grudge in my heart. I try… 

Anas ibn Malik reported: We were sitting with the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and he said, “Coming upon you now is a man from the people of Paradise.” A man from the Ansar came whose beard was disheveled by the water of ablution and he was carrying both of his shoes with his left hand. The next day the Prophet repeated the same words, and the man came in the same condition. The third day the Prophet repeated the same again, and the man came in the same condition. When the Prophet stood up to leave, Abdullah ibn Amr followed the man and he said, “I am in a dispute with my father and I have sworn not to enter my home for three days. May I stay with you?” The man said yes.

Abdullah stayed three nights with the man but he never saw him praying at night. Whenever he went to bed, he would remember Allah and rest until he woke up for morning prayer. Abdullah said that he never heard anything but good words from his mouth. When three nights had passed and he did not see anything special about his actions, Abdullah asked him, “O servant of Allah, I have not been in dispute with my father nor have I cut relations with him. I heard the Prophet say three times that a man from the people of Paradise was coming to us and then you came. I thought I should stay with you to see what you are doing that I should follow, but I did not  see you do anything special. Why did the Prophet speak highly of you?” The man said, “I am as you have seen.” When Abdullah was about to leave, the man said, “I am as you have seen, except that I do not find dishonesty in my soul towards the Muslims and I do not envy anyone because of the good that Allah has given them.” Abdullah said, “This is what you have achieved and it is something we have not accomplished.”Source: Musnad Aḥmad 12286 Source: Sahih (authentic) according to Ibn Kathir

May Allah SWT grant us the ability to forgive easily, help us keep our hearts clean and grant us the best of manners Ameen

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